Jennifer Coulibaby shares her challenges on the journey to motherhood, and what advice she has for women who are currently trying to conceive.
How long were you TTC?
We were trying off and on for 7 years. I have Hypothyroidism and PCOS so I was met with secondary infertility and very irregular cycles form the very beginning of our TTC journey with baby #2. Then I found Pink Stork about 2 years ago and started taking the Fertility line daily. I focused on my health, nutrition, and increasing my exercise while taking the Fertility products and talking with my doctor. My cycles became more regulated as my wellness journey improved. My doctor then started me on medicine to support improvement in ovulation and I did 3 rounds of that before I got a positive pregnancy test. I have no doubt that the Fertility products were helpful to my system regulating and becoming more consistent and prepared for a baby.
How did Pink Stork support you through your journey?
Pink Stork has been there for me throughout the past 2 years of my journey. I feel that the biggest help (outside of the amazing products) was the outstanding customer service, the random check-in with me to see how Pink Stork can help me and overall how I was doing in my journey. The PS Community on Facebook was also a game changer. Just knowing that there was a community of women with similar experiences, frustrations, and grief that I had was super helpful. I know I can ask any questions I have in that group, and I will be welcomed with amazing women who can chime in to give advice, support, and encouragement. Likewise, the PS Community was the first “group” that I shared my pregnancy news with as soon as I found out I was pregnant. It is refreshing and freeing knowing that there is a community of women who have my back no matter what and can grieve with me, yet also celebrate with me.
If you had to go back to your TTC time, what would you tell yourself?
I would tell myself to “keep the faith” and “trust the process”. I leaned heavily on my faith and trust in God and His will for me and my family over the past few years. I wavered at times, wondering if or when my miracle was going to come and wondering if He really had my best interest at heart. God knows the desires of my heart, but I questioned if He really cared. Month after month I was disappointed. With each friend’s baby announcement, I was wondering if I was ever going to get my own turn to announce a pregnancy. I went to baby showers and forced myself to smile outwardly, despite the longing and pain that I felt inside me. I was reminded of the verse in Proverbs 16:9 that says “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps”. This reminded me that God’s will for my life was bigger than anything I could dream of myself, and I gradually learned to relinquish my desires and plans for my heart and begin to pray for His will alone to be done in my life and in my family, whether that meant baby #2 or not.
What is your advice for women currently TTC?
I think my advice for other women TTC is what I would tell myself and that is to “keep the faith”. I know it sounds cliché and may not mean much, but over the years I have learned to trust God and His will for my life, whether that was my will or desires, or not. It’s hard to relinquish the dreams and desires and wants that we have, while also working through the pain, grief, anger, and sadness, but I found over time that God cares about all of it. He wants our mess. He wants our pain. He wants our tears, our sadness, and our hurt. But He also wants us to find joy in Him. To find comfort in His arms. To talk to Him when we are in need. And ultimately, to trust Him with our dreams and desires, which is so hard to do, but oh so worth it. Don’t lose your hope or your faith.
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